The great Sufi poet Rumi raises the question: "What are you, spiritual or sexual?" In this self-help book of 70 of his talks, "crazy wisdom teacher" Lee Lozowick shouts "Both!" Pithy passages are organized as "secrets" that offer commonsense insights for men and women seeking to unfurl the "mysteries" of sexual union. Lozowick begins with assessments of the dividing natures of men and women and proceeds to a demystifying approach of tantric love and beyond. Despite the fact that his earthy language will offend some (prick and tits pop up on page 2), his approach is almost quaintly old-fashioned. He eschews selfishness, proscribes relationships based on friendship, insists on honor and maintains that orgasm is not the ultimate communion but only a part of a loving life. "The Divine is not discovered by becoming more and more 'far out.' The Divine is discovered by becoming optimally normal."